For when you want friendship first, I would use the Soulmate Spell to organise making space for connection without disguising an unspoken demand. The form is already set to this spell, but the useful wording depends on the precise facts, boundary, and decision in front of you. I would not use the ritual to erase an inconvenient fact or assign another person an answer.
Why this version needs its own wording
The base spell concerns clarifying the values and qualities needed for a reciprocal partnership. This page narrows it to making space for connection without disguising an unspoken demand. Name that difference plainly. A useful petition for when you want friendship first should show what has already happened, what remains uncertain, and which action belongs to you. Include another person’s name only when it changes the wording, and leave out private details that do not affect the decision.
I am Carole Bellamy. She names the real situation, separates choice from control, and builds a simple working around one honest next step. The prompt begins, “I am asking for help when you want friendship first. My situation is:” Continue it with one concrete fact, one condition that must be respected, and one next step you can recognise in ordinary life.
Write two petition drafts
Draft the first petition exactly as the wish appears in your mind. Do not perform it. On a second sheet, underline every prediction, command, hidden assumption, and deadline. Rewrite those lines for when you want friendship first using invitation, preparation, observation, or a boundary. The second draft should address making space for connection without disguising an unspoken demand while leaving uncertain facts uncertain.
Compare the verbs. Words such as force, prove, guarantee, and make usually point outside your control. Words such as ask, prepare, notice, offer, stop, and choose identify conduct you can review. Keep the second draft only if its verbs fit the real situation and do not disguise pressure as affection, confidence, or persistence.
Work with the revised page
Use a values list, a pink candle, and a practical way to meet people with shared priorities with the second draft. Place the first draft face down as a record of what you changed, then read the revision. When closing, recycle or store the first page privately and keep the revised action separate from the ritual materials.
Close this specific working
Put out or turn off every light source, clear the surface, and read the chosen action without the symbolic objects around it. For when you want friendship first, that final sentence should still make sense if nobody else responds as hoped. Keep qualified care, financial advice, workplace channels, or safety support in place whenever the subject requires them.
Carole Bellamy’s closing note
I begin with the part of the relationship you can speak about honestly, then I shape the working around consent and a clear next conversation. On this page, that means staying with making space for connection without disguising an unspoken demand. Another person keeps the right to choose, refuse, pause, or leave. The working stays centred on honest invitation, mutual interest, repair you can offer, and the boundaries you can maintain.
After closing, record how the chosen action addresses when you want friendship first. Review only facts relevant to making space for connection without disguising an unspoken demand, and do not turn coincidence into proof. Stop if the work increases fear, pressure, repeated checking, or avoidance.